Monday, October 27, 2008

looks matter

Saw a dog this morning... nothing special about that, we see strays all the time in India. What caught my eyes were the fact that his ears were scratched raw, bleeding and there was no hair over most of his body. not the most attractive dog, as you can imagine. The security guard did not even allow him to come anywhere near the society. The dog obviously used to such treatment, just turned around and went away without a whimper. Another dog, a sweet little stray, in good health just sauntered past the same man. When I asked him about the distinction, he said, asked me in disbelief "Did you not see bad the dog looks?" So here we have a dog rejected on the basis of his looks.
Heard of ' beauty with purpose' ? We have heard so often of how beauty is only skin deep that now-a - days, pageants have to use such terms to distance themselves from superficiality. In the evolved civilized world, looks are supposed to be immaterial. There is reams of research to prove otherwise. When you look good, things go your way more often than if you are not blessed in the looks department. Look into literature and you'll find that undesirable characters always have undesirable characteristics 'thin lipped, squint eyed, pimply faced, mealy mouthed etc'. Remember who the fairest of them all was? Of course, the wonderful Snowhite! We all all know about the wicked step sisters of the lovely Cinderella. Closer home, while Soorpanakha and Pootana could take on any form they chose, when the true colours were revealed, they were as ugly as sin. That reminds me, when we say 'ugly as sin', are we saying sin is ugly or that everything ugly is also sin??
So just tell me, does beauty with purpose mean that the purpose mean that it serves the purpose of being thought of as better than those who are not so beautiful?

Saturday, October 4, 2008

no shoes? look at the ones with no feet.

All my life I have been , to put it bluntly, overweight. A pleasantly chubby baby grew up into a pleasantly plump young woman and then with growing age, the weight grew too...Have agonised over it and tried a few things, but I seem to come up dry.
Recently a family moved in near our home and the lady of the house seems to have similar issues. A few days back, when I was visiting, she offered me an aerated drink, which i refused as I do not like them as a rule. Quickly, she asked me whether it was because it was fattening . Then she proceeded to astound me by saying that this must be the reason I was not fat.
Not fat, me??? when all my life I have fielded the comments , spoken and unspoken, from well meaning (!!!) relatives, about how I could afford to lose a bit of weight. (As if I go blind when I see myself in the mirror or see the weighing scale.)

Along with the realisation that she was not mocking me came another one that everything is relative, and since she had er.., larger issues, it was her perception that I was in OK shape. Reminded me of the story of the man who cried because he had no shoes till he saw someone with no feet! Why do we always look at others and feel envious rather than look around and count our blessings? We want more money than our contemporaries, more recognition than our colleagues, more marks for our children than their friends, larger homes than our neighbours? The worst part is we din this trait in our children too, by constant comparisons( yours truly is guilty as charged).
Comparisons are odious and yet I want to be a size zero too(Look at Kareena Kapoor!!!)
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